It Is Your Fault: Taking Responsibility for Your Success and Failure

When I talked about the entrepreneurial mindset, one of the things I discussed was taking responsibility for yourself. That’s what this article is about. This might be one of my most pointed articles and that is why encourage you to read my pandering post if you are easily offended.

Everyday, we’re given (force fed?) ample amounts of “it’s not your fault”, pat you on the butt, “everything is going to be OK” drivel.

We’re constantly told that someone else will take care of things and just sit back and be patient. Here are just a couple of examples that I see every day.

Weight Problems

We sit on our couches, eating potato chips while the glowy box says that our weight problem is “probably hereditary.” Most weight problems are within our control. The glowy-box is lying to you.

The danger of this is that we allow the problem to stay the same or get worse because “there’s nothing I can do about it.”

Layoffs

We sit at our desks, day after day, not really making anything. We are paid to retrieve printed papers off the copier, and to be a voice on the other end of the line, but we really don’t create value. Then we are surprised when the company lays everyone off.

We were surprised in:

Quit being surprised. If you sign up to be an employee, then there is a risk of being laid off at some point. The business is there to make money. If they aren’t making enough money, employees are let go.

Heck, sometimes employees are let go even when they are making enough money. That’s a healthy business decision, even if it seems heartless. Is it any wonder that it is often quoted that the average person may have between 5 and 20 jobs during their lifetime?

It is your fault. I don’t mean that in the callus way. It’s freeing. You are responsible for your life and future. That is freedom.

It is your fault. Where you are, what you’re doing, how you’re living and what you have rests squarely on your shoulders. These are just two examples where I see people shrug responsibility in exchange for a convenient thing to blame.

“It was the TV that made me fat” or that “evil corporation that laid me off.” Don’t get me wrong: this stuff sucks, it’s awful, but you have the control and you don’t have to keep giving it over to someone or something else.

Here’s the awesome part: the moment you accept this responsibility, you accept the reality that you have control over your circumstances. This is called self-determination aka freedom.

Choose freedom.